What does a huge water slide have to do with raising a healthy, strong, self-confident girl?
Well, recently, I had the chance to share the joy, thrill, and FEAR of watching my 6-year-old daughter, who just by a lick reached the height limit, go down her first ENORMOUS water slide. And as with many aspects of parenting, I felt both excitement and pride in her desire to stretch her courage muscle, as well as fear and worry about how she’d experience it. (And frankly my thoughts about whether she’d go flying off the side didn’t help).
Are you driven by desire? Or is it fear, or maybe shame, or maybe a bunch of “shoulds” that rule your world? It’s the middle of January and as you’re probably aware – or maybe even experienced yourself – this is right about the time that our grand plans for change, our New Years Resolutions, wear off.
Ok, fair warning: Watching this video could cause serious cravings! Cravings for time away, connection with your daughter and other awesome people, delicious food and an infusion of fun!
How’s the romance with YOURSELF going?
Are you giving yourself the OXYGEN first? We all know that a healthy romance actually starts with You.
In a culture that tends to value girls and women for how they look (rather than how they feel); over-markets “fast” (and fake) foods; and over-emphasizes quick fixes to weight loss and beauty, it’s no wonder that so many of women and girls don’t understand the TRUE secret to good health, a nourishing relationship with food, and a delicious relationship with your body.
Of all the complaints I hear most in my practice (besides wanting to lose weight or help their daughter do so) is “I’m SO tired. I have NO time for myself. I’m overwhelmed, drained, wiped out.”
And this makes perfect sense. If you’re a mom, you have a minimum of 400 million things on your to-do list most weeks. You’re shuffling carpool, afterschool activities, doctor’s appointments, and birthday parties (just to name a few). (And this doesn’t take into account all of your other responsibilities outside of the home).
This morning, after yet ANOTHER day stuck inside because of the snowfall, my daughter asked me to play WII with her. (She has recently re-discovered it and it’s been a great distraction during the BLIZZARD!)
“What do you want to play – WII Sports or WII Play? Bowling? Boxing?” she asked me.
This past weekend at the Mom-Daughter Retreat at Madeira School, I had the exciting opportunity to experience myself, and witness 11 girls and their moms, face the challenge of walking across suspended wires to a high-in-the-air landing so we could leap into the air and fly through the trees on a zip line.
Suspended by a rope and a wire. And a whole lot of courage.
Who’s the best mom? Does she stay home with her kids or work out in the world? Does she bake cookies or buy tofu? Does she have a perfectly clean house and all her photos in albums? Or is her house kind of messy, covered with art projects and other evidence of her childrens’ creativity? Does the “best” mom protect her children from being bullied? Or from being a bully? From eating the wrong foods? Or from gaining weight or hating her body?
Is she a better mom than you?